| The Way the World is |
| Preface |
 | 1 Ethnographic and Theoretical Introduction |
| 2 Akher Zamani Mombasa Swahili History and Contemporary Society |
| 3 The Brotherhood of Coconuts Unity, Conflict, and Narrowing Loyalties |
| 4 He Who Eats with You Kinship, Family, and Neighborhood |
| 5 Understanding is Like Hair Limited Cultural Sharing and the Inappropriateness of "All by All" and "Some by Some" Models for Swahili Culture |
| 6 Close One of Your Eyes Concealing Differences Between the Generations and the Uses of "Tokens" |
| 7 Liking Only Those in Your Eye Relationship Terms, Statuses, and Cultural Models |
| 8 Tongues are Spears Shame and Differentiated Conformity |
| 9 Leaning on the Cow's Fat Hump Medical Choices, Unshared Culture, and General Expectations |
 | 10 A Wife is Clothes Family Politics, Cultural Organization, and Social Structure |
| Power in Marriage |
| • | Gender Statuses and Salience Understandings |
| • | Gender Statuses and Differences Between Them |
| • | Comparing Men's and Women's Social Relations |
| • | Wedding Ceremonies and the Gender Statuses |
| • | Relations with Close Kin: Warmth for Women, Restrictions for Men |
| • | The Spouse Relationship: Feelings and Funds |
| • | Divorce, Death, and Gender Differences in the Significance of Marriage |
| • | Husbands, Wives, Love, and Marriage |
| • | The Real Power of the Husband/Father |
| • | The Husband/Father's Real Need for Warmth and Emotional Support |
| • | Women's Happiness and Wives' Power |
| • | Understandings about Women, Social Structure, and Wives' Power |
| • | Social Structure's Strictures: More on Unshared Culture |
| 11 The Dynamics of Swahili Culture A Status-Centered View |
| Notes |
| References |
| Index |