| BEST FRIENDS AND MARRIAGE |
| Acknowledgments |
| Introduction |
| • | Interviewing Women about Friendship |
| Chapter One The Modernization of Friendship and Marriage |
| • | Affective Individualism and the Family |
| The History of Marriage Sentiment |
| • | Free Courtship and Romance |
| • | The Rise of the Romantic Companionate Ideal |
| • | Domesticity: The Sentimental and Private Family |
| The Fate of Friendship and Community |
| • | The Rise and Decline of Romantic Friendship |
| Chapter Two Distinctive Values of Friendship |
| • | First Glimpses of Husbands and Best Friends |
| • | Distinctive Values of Close Friendships |
| • | Women's Culture Defended: Women Friends as Mothers |
| • | Understanding and Women's Sphere |
| • | If Not Unique, Preferred |
| • | Unique Values of Marriage |
| • | Comparing Close Friendship and Marriage |
| • | Do Values of Friendship Interfere with Marriage? |
| • | Community, Power, and Love |
| Chapter Three Close Friendship as an Institution |
| • | Standards of Commitment |
| Rules of Relevance |
| • | Permissible Talk |
| • | Moral Obligations |
| Customary and Residual Practices of Friendship |
| • | Networks of Close Friends and Kin |
| • | How Closest Friends Met |
| • | Are Friends Similar? |
| • | Frequency of Contact |
| • | Configurations of Association |
| • | Mothers Are More Constrained |
| Chapter Four Friendship and Individuality |
| • | Autonomy in Friendship |
| • | Friendship and Individuality |
| • | Subordinating Friendship to Marriage |
| Chapter Five Women Friends and Marriage Work |
| • | Marriage Work |
| • | Emotion Work |
| • | Situation Management |
| • | Accommodative and Influence-oriented Marriage Work |
| • | Why Marriage Work Reinforces Commitment to Marriage |
| • | Do Husbands Do Marriage Work with Friends? |
| • | The Concomitants of Collective Marriage Work |
| • | Implications for Male Power and Authority in Marriage |
| Chapter Six Conclusion: Friendship and Community |
| • | The Modernization of Friendship and Marriage |
| • | Close Friendship as Community |
| • | Toward a More Inclusive Study of Women's Friendships |
| NOTES |
| • | Introduction |
| • | Chapter One The Modernization of Friendship and Marriage |
| • | Chapter Two Distinctive Values of Friendship |
| • | Chapter Three Close Friendship as an Institution |
| • | Chapter Four Friendship and Individuality |
| • | Chapter Five Women Friends and Marriage Work |
| • | Chapter Six Conclusion: Friendship and Community |
| • | Appendix A: Methods of Research |
| Appendix A: Methods of Research |
| Appendix B: Interview |
| Bibliography |
| Index |
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