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"Male revolt," from marital commitment, 140 -41

Manipulation, marital conflicts solved by, 129 , 130 , 134

"Man of sentiment," 9 , 11

"Marital adjustment," 30 , 156 -57

"Marital satisfaction," 133

Marital status: of closest friends, 84 , 85 -86, 89;

of interviewees, 174 . See also Divorce; Marriage; Single women

Market: individualism in, 7 -9 (see also Capitalism);

marriage, 139 -40. See also Consumerism

Marriage, xi , xii , xiii , 1;

arranged, 15;

close friendship compared with, 52 -54, 106 -7, 168 -69;

commitment in, 48 -49, 52 , 62 , 137 -57 passim, 166;

conflicts in, 71 -72, 122 -51, 156;

egalitarian, 4 , 14 n, 30 , 31;

friendship independent of, 100 -115 passim, 130 -31;

friendship subordinate to, 85 -86, 91 , 112 -21, 153 , 161;

gender power in, 44 , 46 , 47 , 55 -56, 58 -59, 100 , 102 , 109 , 149 -58 passim, 163 -64;

history of sentiment of, 13 -22;

and individualism, xv , 4 , 22 , 29 , 32 , 155 , 196 n.41;

and individuation, xvi , 97 , 110 -11;

interviewing about, xvi , 172;

modernization of, 1 , 2 -3, 13 -22, 29 , 30 , 31 , 32 , 154 -58;

romantic, 16 -19, 29 , 30 , 32 , 154 (see also Companionate marriage);

sociology of, 30 , 33 , 133;

survival standard for, 55 , 59;

unique values of, 48 -53, 156 -57;

women's friendships affecting, xv , xvi , xviii , 30 , 40 -41, 44 -45, 54 -60, 122 -58 passim, 163 -70 passim. See also Husbands; Marriage work

Marriage counseling, and marriage commitment, 140 -41

Marriage-market opportunities, 139 -40

"Marriage trauma," 18

Marriage work, xvi , 45 , 122 -51, 153 , 154 , 156;

accommodation-oriented, 123 , 129 -38, 144 -57 passim, 163 , 168 , 170

defined, 123;

influence-oriented, 123 , 129 -38, 149 -50;

and resistance, 129 -30, 148 , 150 , 151 , 153 , 163 -64

May, Elaine Tyler, 18

Meetings, of closest friends, 79 -84, 85 , 92 , 93 , 101 , 136

Men: authority of, xv , 149 -50, 151 , 157 -58, 163 -64 (see also Patriarchy);

"consciousness-raising" groups and, xiv;

and emotional intimacy, 9 , 11 , 143 (see also Intimacy);

and fatherhood, xvii , 50 -51;

individualism and, 7 , 8 -13;

interview design omitting, 172 -73;

and kin networks, 23 -24;

mixed-sex socializing by young, 29 (see also Courtship);

provider role of, 9 , 23 , 51;

public sociability of, 13 , 24 , 89 , 154;

remarriage of, 140;

wives' thoughts of other, 108;

women friends talking about, 44 -45, 70 , 122 -51 passim;

in women's close networks, 76 -77, 77 -78, 83 . See also Gender stratification; Husbands; Marriage; Men's friendships

Men's friendships, xi , 72 -73, 89 -94, 118 , 173;

affective individualistic, 9;

dependence on, 162;

discretion in, 120 -21;

economic similarity in, 204 n.37;

and individuation, 153 -54;

intimacy of, 9 , 11 , 31 , 57 -58, 99 , 100 , 143 , 162;

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riage work in, 142 -44;

public issues in, 164;

standards of commitment in, 6 -67, 68;

and telephone communication, 91;

virtues of, 73 -74. See also Couple-socializing

Mentalités,5 -6

Merton, Robert, 61

Middle class: arranged marriage in, 15;

companionate ideal in, 16 , 19 -22, 29 , 33 , 66 -67, 196 n.38;

couple-socializing in, 25;

individualism in, 7 , 9 , 29;

interviewees in, xii , xvii , xx , xxi;

romantic friendship in, 25 , 27 -28, 31 , 152;

and separate spheres, 8 , 29;

voluntary organizations affecting family in, 200 n.91

Middletown, 21 , 31

Ministers, 8

Minority women, 67 -68, 83;

in interview sample, 173;

poverty among, 138 . See also Race

Modernism, 2 , 98 , 165

Modernity, meaning of, xiv

Modernization, 1 -32;

of community, 22 -25, 158 -59, 165 -66;

of friendship, 1 , 3 -4, 17 -32 passim, 98 -99, 119 -20, 154 -58;

of marriage, 1 , 2 -3, 13 -22, 29 , 30 , 31 , 32 , 154 -58

Money, lending of, 67 . See also Finances

Moral constraint, community, 58 , 159 -60, 162 -63, 165

Moral equality, of wives and husbands, 9 -10, 19 -20

Moral obligations: family, 112 -21;

friends', 69 , 73 -76, 96 , 136 -37, 162 . See also Communal responsibility

Moral order, of marital commitment, 140 -42

Moral role: of women, 8 -12 passim, 26 -27, 38 -39, 40 , 58 , 111 -12. See also Moral obligations

Morgan, Edmund, 16

Mothers, xvii -xviii, xxi , 17 , 19 , 129;

and child care exchanges, xix , 40 -41, 65 , 67 , 75 -76, 166;

economic needs of, 138 , 139;

friends as, xvii , xviii , 38 -44 passim, 58 , 65 , 67 , 74 -76, 81 -96 passim, 101 , 156 , 162 -63;

idealization of, 9 , 10 , 13 , 15 , 156

Mutuality: in friendships, 29 , 53 , 55 , 64 , 85 , 86 , 88 , 97 , 109 -10, 111 , 152 -53;

in marriage, 19 -20, 21 -22, 29 , 30 , 155