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Harevan, Tamara K., 193 n.4

Hartman, Heidi, 193 n.4

"Heterosexual knots," 68

High school friendships, 79 -80

Hill, Reuben, 22

Hochschild, Arlie, 123 -24, 126 , 132

Hostility, of husbands toward friends, 75 -76, 102 -4, 118 , 130 -31, 139

Household purchases, decision making on, 38

Housewives, full-time, 87 , 88

Housework, 42 -43, 44

Humanism, Enlightenment, 24

Human potential movement, 141

Humor, in marriage work, 126 , 132

Husbands: couple-socializing with, xix , 25 , 3092 -93, 102 , 131;

and cult of domesticity, 19 -20;

friends introduced by, 92 , 95 , 101 , 102;

friends of, 118 , 131 , 142 -44;

gender power of, 44 , 46 , 47 , 100 , 102 , 149 -50, 151;

hostility toward wives' friends by, 75 -76, 102 -4, 118 , 130 -31, 139;

infidelity of, 57 -58;

marriage for ("his marriage"), xiii;

marriage work of, 142 -44;

moral equality of wives with, 9 -10, 19 -20;

unique values of, 48 -52, 59;

women friends compared with, 34 -47 passim, 55 , 99 -100;

women friends talking about, 44 -45, 70 , 122 -51 passim;

in women's close networks, xix , 33 , 53 , 76 -77, 78 , 79 , 83 , 108 , 168 -69;

women's friendships autonomous from, 100 -115 passim, 130 -31;

women's friendships subordinate to, 91 , 112 -21