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Salaries. See Pay
"Satisfaction," marital, 133
Scott, Joan W., 194 n.12
Secular philosophy, and marriage commitment, 140
Sedgwick, Catherine, 26
Self, social psychology of, 99 , 100 , 110
Self-awareness, 6 , 10 , 15 , 105 , 157
Self-consciousness, 6 , 7 , 9 , 22 -23, 26 -27
Self-disclosure: limits on, 98 , 99;
marital, 111;
in men's friendships, 99 , 100 , 154;
in women's friendships, 64 , 66 , 76 -84;
passim, 89 , 98 , 99 , 152 , 161 -62. See also Intimacy; Talk
Self-exploration, 7 , 9 , 10 -11, 23 , 105 -6
Self-expression, 10 , 23 . See also Emotional expression; Talk
Senchak, Marilyn, 143
Sentiment: in friendship, 24;
history of marriage, 13 -22;
in kinship, 24;
woman of, 11 . See also Affective individualism; Feeling
Separate spheres, 8 -13, 17 , 18 , 29 , 36 , 41 -44. See also Private sphere; Public sphere; "Women's sphere"
Separate together, unique marriage value of, 51 -52
Sex: interviewing about, 172;
right to refuse, 12;
Sexual identity. See Gender
Shopping, 24 -25, 38 , 42 -43, 44
Shorter, Edward, 4 , 19 -20, 194 n. 12, 196 n.38
Similarity, of friends, 84 -89
Simmel, Georg, 9 , 18 n, 61 , 97 , 98 -99, 100 , 110 , 112 -13, 119 -20
Single women, 13 , 16 , 68 , 103 , 118 , 146 -47, 166 -67. See also Divorce
Sisters, as best friends, 78 -79, 101 , 172
Situation management, 124 , 128 -29, 133
Smelser, Neil, 193 n.4
Smith, Daniel Scott, 12
Smith-Rosenberg, Carroll, 27
"Snowball" sample, 174 -75
Sociability: "back stage" of, 51 -52;
female public, 24 -25;
friendships of, 167;
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male public, 13 , 24 , 89 , 154;
urban, 24 -25
Social control: in collective marriage work, 144 -45;
and community moral constraint, 159 -60. See also Constraints; Moral constraint
Social psychology: of friendship, 98 -99;
Social services, state, 24
Sociology: of community, xii , xiii , xiv , 1 , 2 , 3 -4, 32 , 158 -59;
of family/marriage, xiii -xiv, 1 -5, 30 , 33 , 133;
of gender, xiii
Solomon, Beth, 143
Sorokin, Pitirim, 2
Sports, 89
Stack, Carol, 67 -68
Standards of commitment, 62 , 63 -68, 84 , 88 , 89 , 96 , 111
Standards of equivalency, 62
Standards of exchange, 62 , 63 . See also Standards of commitment
State: centralizing national, 7 -8;
social services of, 24
Status, of marriage, 49 , 50 , 52
Stone, Lawrence, 5 -7, 15 , 24 , 196 n.38
Stowe, Steven, 17 -18
Stratification. See Gender stratification; Middle class; Upper class; Working class
Subjectivity, "cult of," 28
Survival needs: and friendship exchanges, 67 -88. See also Economic support
Survival standard, xv;