Inside the American Couple
  Contents
  Acknowledgments
 collapse sectionIntroduction
 •NOTES
 •REFERENCES

 collapse section1. Biblical Models
 •NOTES
 •REFERENCES
 collapse section2. Dearest Friend
 •NOTES
 collapse section3. “The Thing Bartered”
 •NOTES
 •REFERENCES
 collapse section4. “Boston Marriage”  among Lesbians
 •WHO IS A LESBIAN?
 •WHAT IS LESBIAN SEXUAL ACTIVITY?
 •WHAT IS A LESBIAN COUPLE?
 •NONSEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS
 •REFERENCES
 collapse section5. “You'll Never Walk Alone”
 •AUTHENTICATING THE COUPLE
 •THE FAMILY CHINA
 •IN THE SHADOW OF DAVID AND JONATHAN
 •“YOU'LL NEVER WALK ALONE”
 •NOTES
 •REFERENCES
 collapse section6. The Couple at Home
 •THE CONCEPT OF HOME
 •LEARNING TO CREATE A HOME
 •CONCLUSION
 •NOTES
 collapse section7. When One of Us Is Ill
 •BRINGING IT TOGETHER
 •MAKING IT WORK
 •STICKING IT OUT
 •WHAT HELPS
 •NOTES
 collapse section8. Wives and Husbands  Working Together
 •HUSBAND-WIFE PRACTICES AS A RESPONSE TO  DISCRIMINATION
 •DOING THE HOUSEKEEPING OF THE FIRM
 •COMPETITION
 •THE IMPACT OF SOCIAL CHANGE
 •MARITAL PARTNERS AND  BUSINESS PARTNERS—CONTINUITIES
 •CONCLUSION
 •REFERENCES
 collapse section9. Grounds for Marriage
 collapse sectionTHE STUDY OF MARRIAGE THEN AND NOW
 •For Better And For Worse
 •Tolstoy Was Wrong: Happy Marriages Are Not All Alike
 •Marriage Is a Movie, Not a Snapshot
 •The Critical Events of a Marriage May Not Be Inside the Marriage
 •CAN MARRIAGE BE SAVED?
 •REFERENCES
 collapse section10. Divorce, American Style
 •NOTES
 collapse section11. What's a Wife Worth?
 collapse sectionTHE WENDT CASE AND DIVORCE LAW  IN THE UNITED STATES
 •The Wendts
 •Divorce Law in the United States
 •Ms. Wendt's Unpaid Work
 collapse sectionVALUING UNPAID WORK
 •Traditional Methods
 •Human-Capital Theory and a Partnership Theory of Marriage
 •The Judge's Ruling in the Wendt Case
 •RESISTANCE TO THINKING ABOUT MARRIAGE FROM AN  ECONOMIC POINT OF VIEW
 •CONCLUSION
 •REFERENCES
 collapse section12. Toward an Understanding  of Asian American  Interracial Marriage  and Dating
 •WHO ARE ASIAN AMERICANS?
 •ASIAN AMERICAN INTERRACIAL COUPLING
 •POPULAR THEORIES REGARDING ASIAN AMERICAN  INTERRACIAL COUPLING
 •RETHINKING ASIAN AMERICAN INTERRACIAL COUPLING
 •SUBJECTIVE EXPERIENCE OF BEING “INTERRACIAL”  AND/OR “INTERCULTURAL”
 collapse sectionINTERACTION BETWEEN CULTURE AND THE INDIVIDUAL
 •Sources of Cultural Influence
 •Sources of Individual Variation
 •THE DYNAMIC NATURE OF CULTURE AND RELATIONSHIPS
 •FUTURE RESEARCH DIRECTIONS
 •A FINAL CAVEAT
 •CONCLUSION
 •NOTES
 •REFERENCES
 collapse section13. Arranged Marriages
 •ON A PERSONAL NOTE: WHAT HAVE I GOT TO DO WITH  ARRANGED MARRIAGES?
 •MY COUSIN'S STORY
 •TOWARD A FEMINIST VIEW OF ARRANGED MARRIAGES
 •historical changes and  cross-cultural variability
 •CHOICE IN LOVE VERSUS ARRANGED MARRIAGES:  HOW DIFFERENT?
 collapse sectionCHOOSING A “SUITABLE BOY”
 •Different Cultures, Different Goals, Different Practices
 •One Species, Similar Criteria
 •Preferences
 •Choosing a Spouse in India
 •Love versus Demographics
 collapse sectionis happily ever after equally happy  in arranged marriages?
 •Processes Underlying Marital Satisfaction
 •Who Is Responsible for Marital Satisfaction?
 •Happily Ever After: Summing Up
 •choosing between in the “modernizing” world
 •arranged marriages: what can we conclude?
 collapse sectionfeminism and arranged marriages
 •Lack of Choice for Women
 •Power Inequities in Marriage
 •Arranged Marriages Are Part of a Web of Inequities
 •Arranged Marriages Perpetuate a Notion of Women as Property
 •FINAL WORDS
 •NOTES
 •REFERENCES
 collapse section14. Marriage in Old Age
 •THE LIFE COURSE OF MARRIAGE
 •MARRIAGE GETS WORSE BEFORE IT GETS BETTER
 •THE UPWARD TURN IN MARITAL HAPPINESS
 •retirement and gender roles
 •RISK FACTORS OF MARRIAGE
 •ILLNESS AND CAREGIVING
 •WIDOWHOOD: WHEN MARRIAGE ENDS
 •CONCLUSIONS
 •REFERENCES

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