Acknowledgments

No book is an island. This book could not have been written had I not read the works of other feminist thinkers both inside and outside the academy. Although I have not met many of them, I am indebted to them for communicating their insights and passions. I am also grateful to those who shared their ideas in the interdisciplinary seminars led by visiting scholars at the Center for the Study of Women in Society at the University of Oregon, Eugene. In addition to the intellectual stimulation provided by Center affiliates, the Center also provided me with secretarial help and with funds to buy released time from several classes in order to write. I gratefully acknowledge this support.

I also owe personal debts of gratitude to many individuals. I especially thank those colleagues who read the entire manuscript at one stage or another. First, there is Marilyn Frye, who was a visiting scholar at the Center when I was writing the first chapters. She not only read these but, after she left, continued to read, and to criticize, the manuscript. I found her clearheaded questions and comments enormously helpful. I also want to thank Jean Stockard, my colleague in the department of sociology and collaborator on an earlier book. She read not only the entire manuscript but sometimes various versions of the same chapter, and always made constructive suggestions. I also thank Marion Goldman, another sociological colleague, for editing suggestions and for helping me to be more accurate on some points. Mary Rothbart, from our psychology department, read an early version of the whole manuscript. I am grateful to her for liking it even though it does not quite fit the ways psychologists do "science."

Many other colleagues read and commented on portions of the manuscript relevant to their interests or provided general intellectual stimulation. I especially thank Aletta Biersack for comments on an earlier paper and a version of the chapter on anthropology. I also thank Joan Acker, Patricia Gwartney-Gibbs, Barbara Pope, and Jack Whalen. The general comments of several visiting scholars were also most helpful: Nancy Armstrong, Haane Haavind, Harriet Holter, and Barrie Thorne.

I also owe a special debt to the students in my classes who used the manuscript as a text at various stages of its development. Their reactions and suggestions were most helpful. I especially thank Judith Barker, Joyce Briggs, Sharon Elise, Mark Nallia-Tone, Kathleen Olson, Mary Lou Parker, and Patricia Raney, who read the manuscript, shared information and thoughts with me and were able to use the mother-wife distinction in their own work. I also thank former students who worked with me as the ideas in this book were developing: Michael Finigan, Sandra Gill, Kay McDade, and Jack Sattel.

I thank Nancy Chodorow and Karen Paige Ericksen for reviewing the manuscript for the press and providing encouragement along with criticism and many useful suggestions and references. I especially thank Sheila Levine and Rose Vekony, my editors at the press, for their steady support and good judgment.

Many people helped with the typing of the manuscript, both from the Center for the Study of Women in Society and from the Sociology Department. They were Leisha Sanders, Marcia DeCaro, Pam Borgman, and Lyn Cogswell from the Center and Vicki van Nortwick, Linda Kelm, and Ronald S. Larsen from the Sociology Department. I thank them all and most especially Lyn Cogswell and Vicki van Nortwick, who were able to transform a very worked-over typescript into perfect copy.

I did not consult my husband, who is also a sociologist, about the basic content of this book, and I thank him for understanding why I did not. He did, however, encourage me to write the book and helped with specific questions. He is my dearest friend and I thank him for being with me and for me. Although I did not consult my children directly about the book either, I have learned from them and grown with them, and what I say about the future fits with their lives.